Breaking the Silence: Coping With My Last Race in Wake of COVID-19

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Taylor Covington is a senior swimmer at Boston College. She is a former Swimming World Intern and current Swimming World contributor. She was swimming at the CSCAA meet when the COVID-19 cancelled NCAA events

This is the silence I have been dreading.

Six nights ago, I perched myself on the stiff edge of my suitcase, letting my shoes sink into the plush hotel carpet. The ominous purr of the air conditioning unit gave the room a dead sort of tranquility, blotting out the sounds of traffic and chaos that existed beyond our own drawn curtains. I recognized the quiet.

It was the same omnipresent, eerie silence that dampened all of my senses each time I imagined that final race. The crowd’s roar would fade into a distant echo, and I’d have to strain to hear the starter’s faint whisper with instructions to step up to the block. Even the water would express its sympathy, trading its vicious roar for a melodious tinkling at my clean entrance, parting politely for my every stroke. I’d break the silence by hitting the touchpad, and for the last time, victory would be defined by a boisterous team huddle, the crowd erupting into cheers, and coaches triumphantly pacing the deck while throwing their fists in the air­.

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Then naturally, from that point forward, victory would be a little quieter–a firm handshake at graduation, a letter of acceptance, validation from a boss–things that were all of equal or greater importance, but still, just a little quieter.

I jumped at the sound of my dad’s voice.

“Lots of NCAA Championships are getting cancelled.” He squinted at the notification. “Geez, now the NBA is suspending its season.”

I hadn’t cried since the initial email (the one so chillingly titled “Coronavirus Announcement”), but strangely, this news broke the dam. I began reprimanding myself for mourning something so trivial–a basketball season, a swim meet–during such a serious global health crisis. People were dying, they were at risk, and they were afraid. But this was uncharted territory.

Sports had always been an insulated realm, untouched by the chaos of our universe. They gave us somewhere to turn when the real world didn’t make sense, a place to escape. They gave us the structure and justice we couldn’t identify in our own lives, a place where everyone, even enemies, played by the same rules–if only for three hours or four 12-minute quarters.

Life without sports was quiet.

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My dad moved to the bottom edge of the bed and gave me that long-awaited, post-meet embrace, as a noiseless cinema of the day’s events passed through my imagination.

I had woken up that morning after 90 minutes of restless sleep. The bulleted list that outlined the rest of my college career slithered through my mind in an endless string: “Cancel all on-campus classes, effective tomorrow, through the end of the semester, and move to online instruction,” even more devastating, “Close University residence halls and require students to vacate their rooms by Sunday at 9:00 p.m.” all under that haunting subject line. The list had greeted me the previous night during warm-up at the competition pool, the email notification sliding over the text I had been re-reading the entire plane ride. It was the latest text to my coach: “This is the best I have felt all season. I’m so excited.” How naïve.

And to think that I was one of the lucky ones. Meet officials had decided to proceed with the first day of competition before cancelling the rest of the meet; I would get that final swim. Surprisingly, I nabbed a best time in my first event, albeit in front of a stack of empty bleachers per the “no spectator” stipulation, and I had the opportunity to time trial my best race to end my career. I never expected to feel such gratitude, going out on a time trial with a glaringly vacant seat in the “crowd,” the precise spot I was supposed to turn to immediately after my race. I remember touching the wall, and for a brief moment, I just imagined him there, my dad who coached me from ages 11-18, beaming at me with pride, witnessing full-circle what we had built together.

Then, there was that brutally beautiful moment when my coach embraced me, followed by a few of my teammates. It was less a huddle of celebration, and more a quiet circle of compassion, where my best friends’ grainy faces soon appeared on a phone screen in front of me. The ending wasn’t what I expected, but in the most awkward and unsettling way, it gave me what I understand now to be a precious sliver of finality–a brief, imperfect moment of closure before parting with my identity as a student athlete, facing the unnatural decision of which piece to mourn first.

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I write this from an Airbnb in southeastern Massachusetts, one that my roommates and I rented three nights ago from a family of four. I’m stationed on one of the bottom bunk beds, adorned with a nautical comforter and canvas pillows embroidered with pirate lingo. A week ago, this bed was probably the site of dramatic pillages, the lower deck of “The Black Pearl” lapped by turbulent black waters. Today, a barricade of non-perishables and bulging suitcases flank its posts, as professors’ metallic voices echo from various computer speakers throughout the house. We don’t know when or if we are going home; we don’t know when we will see each other again if we do. We look out at a completely paused version of the bustling, lively world we used to inhabit, the one in which we seemed to have some definite place.

Athletes in the class of 2020, please know that we are feeling this deafening silence together. I feel the still waters that you were supposed to turn white, the cold bleachers that were supposed to overflow. I feel the deserted fields, courts, and rinks where your dreams were supposed to come to fruition. But we are no strangers to the silence. We have proven ourselves as quiet victors time and time again.

Two weeks ago, we forced that last rep, even when no one was watching. In the stillness before the sunrise, we were grinding through practices, holding pace for one more round. Sometimes, we spent entire nights in the library, and still found a way to crush a double the next day. We squeezed in that stretch even when it was inconvenient. We struggled with injuries, and we asked for help. We contemplated quitting, and we came back every time. We rallied behind victories and bounced back from failures. We comforted teammates behind closed doors, and we inspired people we never met. Sometimes, we put the team on our backs. Other times, we let them carry us. We are the products of all the things we did in the dark for those brief, shining moments in the light. We are used to enduring pain and wholesomely trusting that it won’t be in vain. Just like we always have, we will break this silence soon. I, for one, can’t wait to hear you.

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Kathy Allman
4 years ago

This is so well written. Thank you for sharing ❤️

Greta R. Namath
4 years ago

You can always swim but if you get sick and pass away that’s it. Hope you can go back to swim soon.

Victoria Brady
Victoria Brady
4 years ago

Great article! Thanks for helping me cope.

Kevin
Kevin
4 years ago

Love the article , Tay. I am so proud of you in so many ways. Your dedication to everything you do has always amazed me. So many athletes lost that “fun” part of their lives, but obviously our world is in crisis . The hard training and time you guys put in as athletes to go along with difficult studies , is hard to grasp for many. Student/ athlete…but you’ve always been my little girl. Love, Dad

claudia lin
claudia lin
4 years ago

Very inspirational. Stay strong!!

Anonymous
Anonymous
4 years ago

Well said! So proud of you!

Sarah
Sarah
4 years ago

Amazing work Taylor, you are an angel!!!

Kristi Fec
Kristi Fec
4 years ago

Thanks for your helpful insight! Love to read your articles 🙂

Jamie Doherty
Jamie Doherty
4 years ago

Wow, thank you for for putting into words what so many are feeling! Incredible work, stay healthy!

Kelley
Kelley
4 years ago

Best article yet, sweet, strong girl. I am so sorry to you and all of the seniors who were so abruptly shorted and robbed of the experience. One day, this will be a story you tell…”remember that horrible Covid spring”…but right now i know it just sucks. I am feeling a little robbed of coming back for graduation.
Chin up, you still my favoritist BC swimmer ever in the history of evers!

Benjamin van der Wel
Benjamin van der Wel
4 years ago

Beautiful story, thank you. For many reasons I can relate to much of what you wrote.
After this crisis has passed U.S. Masters Swimming will be there & any team will love to have you.
Swimming shall go on.

Jennifer Squires Leuschner

my kids are much younger but even they are disappointed about end of long course season before it even starts. My tween swims 6 days a week and has committed fully to this sport. These athletes have given years of their lives to their teams and sports. This is part of their being and who they are. Sure they can swim but they lose that part of their being. No one is saying that any isolation is not important but they should get to grieve the lose of part of their life that they did not get to play out.

Tanya Penrod
4 years ago

Jennifer Squires Leuschner, dealing with that with my early teen too. Thanks to that fun pre-plague theme, he’d really been struggling the last couple of years but things were finally coming around again. He as excited and fired up to be training. Eventually he”ll be back in the water but he feels lost without his team.

Jennifer Squires Leuschner

Tanya Penrod definitely hard. Between school and swim both my kiddos had a lot of time filled. They are feeling a little lost this week. My 11 year old had a breakout year for her own times. She moved to the highest age group training for her age group in December and has put in so much work. She was closing in on so many of her goals. It is hard to see her missing swim and her coach and friends and seeing those goals stalled. My son is younger and less invested at this point but still misses it a lot. Stay healthy

Jennifer Squires Leuschner

and honestly we have a good group and I miss a lot of the families too We were in spring break week before this so we are already 2 weeks out

Ben
Ben
4 years ago

Brings back So many memories, and tears.
Thank you

David Fierke
4 years ago

Only athletes know the loss of the end of competition. Its real. It hurts. And it will be with them for a long time.

Tanya Penrod
4 years ago
Reply to  David Fierke

David Fierke, amen! And it’s a whole ‘nother level of mind game when your career ends abruptly. I know how it feels to have my athletic career cut short due to injury. I can’t even imagine how these athletes feel.

Rachael Pounds Pabon
4 years ago
Reply to  David Fierke

So, so true!!! I am 42 and I can still feel that last bus ride home after my last softball game. I will never forget the pain. I cannot even imagine having it and like this. I feel for all these kids everywhere. ?

Benjamin van der Wel
4 years ago

Beautiful story, thank you. After this crisis has passed U.S. Masters Swimming will be there & any team will love to have you. <3 Swimming shall go on.

LARRY mcMahan
LARRY mcMahan
4 years ago

Taylor,
That was one well written article. Very powerful and I feel for you. You are truly a remarkable young lady and i wish you the very best. Who knows what is to come. But never hive up on swimming.

Coach Larry
Pickens Piranhas

Tanya Penrod
4 years ago

You know, everyone keeps pointing out that if you get sick or die or what of the other people. Can’t we allow the athletes to mourn the abrupt passing of a very real part of their lives? It doesn’t mean they don’t value life or that they’re being selfish in any manner. They simply realize that they lost a part of themselves. For some of these athletes, this is it. Sure they might swim again but most will never swim with that team or competitively ever again. Usually, short of injury, they have a chance to prepare themselves for that final swim, not have the proverbial rug jerked out from under them. Let’s recognize their struggle and stop basically telling them to suck it up.

Cheryl Stelmar
4 years ago

Beautiful piece.

Andrea Banicz
4 years ago

My daughter was supposed to go to NCSA in Orlando next week. That’s not happening and I’m not sure if she will qualify next year. She worked so hard to get to this point, she was so excited for months and now she will be sitting at home. No meets, no practices, no friends to swim with… ?

Paul Anthony
4 years ago

We are going to look back at this and realize shutting down everything was wrong

Micaela Mazzocchi
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony there are no others choice

Ron Buda
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony Tell that you those who have and will lose loved ones.

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Ron Buda Seasonal flu kills more each year. They are just focusing on COVID-19 stats because it’s new.

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Micaela Mazzocchi Incorrect.

Ron Buda
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony You don’t get it. This is a NOVEL virus. This means the RNA signature is a combination of animal and human and so does NOT fit the model of the flu. Whereas we have anti-virals, vaccines and Tamil-flu to use with the “flu”, there is nothing yet to use with Covid-19. You have shown old information. The flu should not be compared to Covid-19. Coved-19 has mutated which make it even harder to study. My daughter who has worked front line in foreign countries for the last 12 years to combat infectious diseases such as this had the same opinion as you to begin with…now she is extremely concerned because this is expanding at a faster rate than the flu and the US is extremely unprepared to cope. Please continue with your due diligence, stay healthy and keep others in mind.

Dana Jacob
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony you need to do some research. I thought this a few weeks ago. Wrong.

Em Harrison
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony very correct you are but what happened when the flu was a new thing? Would be interesting to hear the experiences. I guess unfortunately We can’t know or give the answer straight away to something new we havnt learnt about.

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Em Harrison There is more than one kind of “flu”

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Ron Buda You drank the kool aid. As of today deaths in USA from Covid 19 = 217. Flu killed 12,000 Oct to Feb

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Dana Jacob History will prove you wrong.

Ron Buda
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony Stay stuck in that thinking. I give you information straight from my highly intelligent daughter, suma cum laude in genetics, who has worked front line against several emerging diseases for 20 years and you deny that and say, ‘I drank the kool aid”. You are part of the problem. Good luck to you, because you will need it. Oh, but luck favors the prepared…too bad. Remember your king said, “ many people have died that have never died before.”

Ron Buda
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony Medium.com is a platform to blog your opinions. I will take info from the CDC over it, thank you. The hysteria is buying toilet paper.

Craig Lord
4 years ago
Reply to  Ron Buda

Indeed Ron… fascinating angles on many statistics, none of which will persuade an Italian watching 160 people (a whole generation) in three close-knit villages, wiped out in 36 hours, and death rates to 500+, 550+, 630+, 550+ in a sequence of four days that its ok to be relaxed and lockdown measures are too extreme. Reading that piece reminded me of the math teacher who told a class of youngsters very shy of his own intellectual capacity for the subject at hand that eternity meant that you could never touch the wall, because if you stood 3m away from it and kept getting closer by half and half again and half again etc, eternity showed that you could never reach the wall. A nine-year-old then reached out and touched the wall with a gesture that every swimmer would recognise, and knew he was smarter than teacher, even if just for that milli-second when his nervous system linked wall to brain and confirmed: “But I just touched the wall”. Cue smile. A caricature – but then in some regards that’s what that piece felt like.

Paul Anthony
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Ron Buda Check the references in the article, including the CDC. You didn’t read it did you? Read. Learn. Share.

Craig Lord
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

I did Paul. I don’t come to the same conclusion because that’s opinion, which is fair enough but there are stats in there that speak to subjectivity, like ‘how many Americans think they have it’. As stated, the folk living this (including the doctors, nurses and other healthcare workers) and dealing with the death are reporting things that don’t square with the theories and conclusions of the clever young chap who penned the piece but may have a long journey ahead as a student of life, if he’s lucky.

Ron Buda
4 years ago
Reply to  Paul Anthony

Paul Anthony no, it would not down load so I tried to find it from the source. However, I have seen similar articles and know and understand the numbers, percentages, mortality rates, etc. Agreed that people react to unknowns with fear that evolved into anxiety and with some, to panic. The reaction to panic is to do something they can control, ie: buy toilet paper to confront the impending doom. To disregard this RNA animal/human cross as the KNOWN and studied flu and to compare it to other health challenges of the past MAY be a dangerous error. Therefore, I choose to not panic (have purchased extra TP) and take heed to the specialist in the medical field and not our incompetent elected officials who are politicians with no knowledge of virology. To err on the side of caution, I believe, is the prudent decision.

Jim Barbiere
4 years ago

This is insanely well written. Author is extremely talented.

Heather Moody
4 years ago

My daughter a Senior and is so Disappointed I feel for you all !!!

Georgie White
4 years ago

Archie White

Donna Pim
4 years ago

So sad for you all after working so hardxxx sending love

Connor Kioussis
4 years ago

Jake Bastian Mitch Williams deep

Allison Macdonald Carson

My daughter (17yr old highschool Sr)j was to go to the Canadian Olympic trials March 29th. She’s still holding out pointless hope it will be rescheduled. My heart aches for all these seniors and athletes.

Sue Willmore
4 years ago

Nikki Willmore

Lilean Sedlacek
4 years ago

Lizzy Mckenna

Carol Luyrink
4 years ago

Kristen Doole Dussault

Em Harrison
4 years ago

I relate sport is an everyday passion but after travelling and experiencing certain countries that may not ever get the opportunity to even play or try certain sports we are so lucky for what we have. although it’s hard and it’s an outlet everyday routine it’s a time to challenge ourselfs look at it in a positive way an try different aspects to achieve our goals in the long run. When I travelled I remember handing a cricket bat to a young kid and I’ve never seen such a special thing the kid appreciated it like they have never seen such a thing and didn’t even know what it was. I would love to qualify for the Olympics one day for canoe but i will not let this impact me and set me back achieveing my goals it’s actually been fun trying and looking at different avenues I might be wrong but sometimes we have to accept things for as they are and they can’t always go our way and we have to take on what ever approaches us.

Cathy Grimm
4 years ago

Tracy Gehrke

Tracy Gehrke
4 years ago
Reply to  Cathy Grimm

Cathy Grimm she’s cleaning her locker out today. I can’t believe how her career is wrapping up!

Cathy Grimm
4 years ago
Reply to  Cathy Grimm

Tracy Gehrke ☹️. Thinking about you guys!

Tracy Gehrke
4 years ago
Reply to  Cathy Grimm

It was a fantastic post. Definitely a tear-jerker!!

Alison Fasher
4 years ago

Wow ?

Tracey 'Heck' Kennedy
4 years ago

Sad indeed. Our coaches (Saskatoon Goldfins) have started doing some virtual dryland training with our swimmers. Just to keep the connection and fitness level up.

Karen Eilers
4 years ago

Tracey ‘Heck’ Kennedy our team is doing the same thing. Our teenagers are in the pool 6 days a week and this has been devastating to them. I’m a working nurse and I understand but still super hard for the swimmers.

Tracey 'Heck' Kennedy
4 years ago

Karen Eilers So true. Thank you for the work you do as a nurse. I wish you and your family the best of health!

Sherri Timlin Hoban
4 years ago

Abby Hoban

Alex M.
Alex M.
4 years ago

Article hits at the heart. Beautifully written and expressed.

Sharon Andrews
Sharon Andrews
4 years ago

The writer is extremely talented and insightful. Yes, the virus has had a huge and difficult impact on everyone. It’s devastating in the lives it has taken and touched. It is a horrible thing . That does not negate the fact that athletes are mourning a part of their lives they have worked extremely hard to succeed in. Yes, I’m sure they grateful for their health. We should never take that for granted . But it is normal and even healthy to mourn losing something you love and take pride in. All athletes have to work hard to be successful. Most college athletes have worked 10 to 15 of their 21/22 years on this earth preparing for that perfect swim, basket, run, score..etc.. Some will get another shot when this is over. For others, their shot will be gone forever. So athletes, mourn your loss. As a parent of an student athlete, I mourn with you. When all this is over, we will heal. That’s the only thing we can do. Stay safe all. Wonderful piece Miss Covington.

Russell Greenock
4 years ago

Craig Greenock read this

Cheryl Trueman
4 years ago

My son in a national swimmer. Everything has stopped for him it’s devastating ?????

Catherine Naughton
4 years ago

Imogen Naughton xxx

Nicola Wilson
4 years ago

Ace photo

Darlen Della Jones
4 years ago

Christie Jones Raines-good article

Mike Simpson
Mike Simpson
4 years ago

Thank you Taylor!
Pride of Gaffney….
So glad you hung out in BSpgs for a summer!

Gail Gibson
4 years ago

Compared to human life, yes, a swim meet/season is Trivial. The cancellation of a competitive season to an athlete, especially a swimmer that easily requires 3-5 hours a day of training/weight lifting/etc., is heart breaking…not the same heart break as losing human life (I had to clarify); but still is heartbreak. An athlete’s sport somewhat defines (a portion) of their life. The endless practices and sacrifices are such a dominating part of an athlete’s life, it is like losing a part of you…especially if you are a senior this year. It is okay to morn your loss as it is deep and painful. Just remember though, tomorrow is another day and new opportunities await because you are alive!

Ness Mc
4 years ago

Sad ,but my thoughts are for the families that have lost loved ones not a swimming competition in this current climate that the World faces.

Brad B
Brad B
4 years ago
Reply to  Ness Mc

You obviously missed the whole point of the article.

Jeetu Bachani
4 years ago

I can never forgive Chaina for this

Pierre Lafontaine
4 years ago

Incredible

Michelle Holding
4 years ago

Kylie Wood Josh Holding a good read

Sue Barker
4 years ago

So sad……. years of early mornings, evening training, gym 6 days a week…… dedicated, hard working, disciplined swimmers who love what they do…. prepare for Olympic trials…. only to be told STOP NO POOL SESSIONS NO OLYMPIC TRIALS…… DEVASTATED. Stay strong. xx

Betsy Hart
4 years ago

The majority of people will say, ” It’s not the end of the world so get over it.” But it does seem like the end of the world to swimmers..
Especially seniors in college.? who have banked the hard work and time and totally committed to the sport.

Tim Tully
4 years ago

Boston College Swimming and Diving

Amanda Kate
4 years ago

Molly Kerr

Claudia Clevenger Hernandez

Wow… just…wow! ??‍♀️?

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