{"id":430413,"date":"2020-05-05T03:50:11","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T10:50:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.swimmingworldmagazine.com\/news\/?p=430413"},"modified":"2020-05-06T11:48:01","modified_gmt":"2020-05-06T18:48:01","slug":"kim-rhodenbaugh-lewallen-shares-her-story-of-survival-in-master-of-the-mask","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.swimmingworldmagazine.com\/news\/kim-rhodenbaugh-lewallen-shares-her-story-of-survival-in-master-of-the-mask\/","title":{"rendered":"Kim Rhodenbaugh Lewallen Shares Her Story of Survival In ‘Master Of The Mask’"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I was a ‘Master of the Mask’. When people asked how I was doing, I usually answered, ‘I\u2019m doing great’. There were very few people I couldn\u2019t fool, and even they didn\u2019t know the whole story. I hid behind that mask until my suppression literally almost killed me. Finally, at the age of forty-seven, after being at the end of my rope, I stepped out of the darkness of fear and shame and stepped into the light of freedom that God had for me all along. And now, I finally have the courage to speak the truth.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

It took Kim Rhodenbaugh Lewallen<\/strong> a long time to understand her story, but not long to figure out what she wanted to do with it.<\/p>\n

By the time she decided, she was well past the end of a swimming career that took her to the 1984 Olympics, that yielded medals at the World Championships, the Pan American Games and the World University Games, past a college career featuring three NCAA titles and 11 All-American nods at the University of Texas.<\/p>\n

The journey toward sharing her experience also snaked through moments away from view. She had traversed a struggle with addiction, with eating disorders, with suicide attempts, all manifestations of pain from sexual assaults suffered as a child.<\/p>\n

When Rhodenbaugh Lewallen had surmounted those challenges, she had one more step, an assist from a friend. After talking with Nancy Hogshead-Makar<\/strong>, her Olympic teammate and a renowned advocate for women\u2019s rights, Rhodenbaugh Lewallen knew how she wanted to translate her history into action.<\/p>\n

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Photo Courtesy: Kim Rhodenbaugh Lewallen\/Nation of Women Publishing<\/p><\/div>\n

\u201cMy hope is that by sharing this it helps people to realize, \u2018wait a minute, I shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of this,\u2019\u201d Rhodenbaugh Lewallen told Swimming World<\/strong><\/em>.<\/p>\n

Out of her struggles, Rhodenbaugh Lewallen is working to give hope to others. What started as an online article has blossomed into a book, Master of the Mask<\/em>, detailing the toll of sexual assault and how she found her way out of the darkness (Available in paperback via Nation of Women Publishing<\/a> or for Kindle through Amazon<\/a>). She founded a non-profit called<\/a> Freedom Now that provides support to sexual assault victims. She is working with SafeSport\u2019s representatives<\/a> at USA Swimming<\/a> to share her reach athletes and coaches.<\/p>\n

Above all, Rhodenbaugh Lewallen wants others to use the lessons of her past to improve their futures.<\/p>\n

A story that needed to be shared<\/h3>\n

Rhodenbaugh Lewallen knew her journey toward acceptance, like that of every sexual assault survivor, was unique. But she didn\u2019t yet appreciate just how different.<\/p>\n

She watched incidents like the Larry Nassar case, in which hundreds of victims denounced the doctor and his enablers for years of systemic sexual abuse, with a deep empathy. But Rhodenbaugh Lewallen\u2019s abuse came at the hands of fellow swimmers, not adults but athletes with whom she worked out or shared hotels.<\/p>\n

Knowing the large proportion of sexual assault cases that never come to light, and seeing the prevailing dynamic in the ones that did, she identified the athlete-on-athlete nature of her abuse as unique. Her history took on even greater urgency, an intuition reinforced by Hogshead-Makar, who has worked for decades on Title IX and gender rights litigation<\/a> and is herself a survivor of sexual assault<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u201cI gave her a call and shared my story with her,\u201d Rhodenbaugh Lewallen said.<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd she said, \u2018Kim, out of all the athletes I\u2019ve worked with and, not that it\u2019s not going on, but you\u2019re the first person to come to me personally about athlete-on-athlete abuse. You\u2019ve got to share your story.\u2019\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Kim Rhodenbaugh Lewallen Photo Courtesy: Cary Jobe<\/p><\/div>\n

Last summer, Rhodenbaugh Lewallen wrote what became the seed for Master of the Mask<\/em> as a piece for Global Woman Magazine<\/a>. The response she received emphasized that she had chosen the right path.<\/p>\n

\u201cAfter I shared that on social media and Nancy shared it, it just exploded,\u201d she said. \u201cI had parents contacting me and coaches contacting me personally sharing their stories, some that had never shared it with anyone. I thought, \u2018gosh, I need to keep going with this. I need to write a book.\u2019 And that\u2019s where that was birthed.\u201d<\/p>\n

Combating Shame<\/h3>\n

An American is sexually assaulted every 73 seconds, according to U.S. Department of Justice\u2019s crime victimization survey<\/a>, amounting to nearly a half-million victims age 12 or older every year.<\/p>\n

One in six American women has been the victim of rape or attempted rape in their lives. One in four girls<\/a> suffer some form of sexual abuse in childhood. Victims are 10 times more likely to use or abuse drugs. Data from the DOJ<\/a> estimates that upwards of 70 percent of sexual assaults go unreported each year.<\/p>\n

Rhodenbaugh Lewallen doesn\u2019t just relay such stats in Master of the Mask.<\/strong> <\/em>She embodied them for years. The title of the book is a recognition of the lengths she went to conceal her struggles; the act of divulging is a unequivocal shedding of the mask. She says:<\/p>\n

\u201cEverybody that I know that reached out to me, they were like, \u2018we had no idea. You were always so nice and smiled. And that\u2019s how a lot of people are that deal with this, whether it\u2019s abuse, whether it\u2019s depression. Yes, there\u2019s warning signs, but people don\u2019t have those warning signs sometimes.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Rhodenbaugh Lewallen takes heart in other swimmers sharing their struggles with mental health, including high-profile athletes like Allison Schmitt<\/strong> and Michael Phelps.<\/strong> Those examples helped her come to grips with her struggles. After years of putting aside physical pain in the name of achieving her goals in the pool, Rhodenbaugh Lewallen chose to confront the emotional pain, \u201cto not just \u2018keep sucking it up buttercup,\u2019 but actually take a hard look at what we\u2019re dealing with and get the help we need and not be ashamed of that, not be ashamed of asking for help.\u201d<\/p>\n

One topic Rhodenbaugh Lewallen returns to often is that notion of shame. She draws on the work of Brene Brown,<\/strong> a psychologist who has done extensive research<\/a> on shame and vulnerability, to understand how the copious amounts of shame she felt kept her silent for so long. It\u2019s one of the most pernicious aspects of the trauma sexual assault victims suffer: Many endure their pain silently, too ashamed to ask for help because they think it\u2019s their fault or that they\u2019re the only ones going through it, when in reality, the statistics say someone close to them is likely dealing with many of the same issues.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s at the heart of Rhodenbaugh Lewallen\u2019s goal in Master of the Mask<\/em>, to help her truth cut through the shroud of shame that keeps so others from healing.<\/p>\n

\u201cThat\u2019s my hope, too, not just to share help with victims and help them to kind of come out, because I address shame, as well,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

\u201cThere\u2019s so much shame with sexual abuse victims. \u2026 But I always wanted to encourage parents and teachers and teens and people that have been abused to really look at these prevention measures to be able to protect themselves and their athletes.\u201d<\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sexual Abuse Resources For Athletes and Their Guardians<\/h3>\n
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  • The following references and resources include commentary. <\/b>All commentaries are the opinion of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views\u00a0of Swimming World Magazine, the International Swimming Hall of Fame, nor its staff.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    Kim Rhodenbaugh Lewallen<\/strong> is one of many girls and women to have suffered sexual abuse at the hands of coaches and others in sport down the decades, complaints and evidence provided dating back to the 1960s.<\/p>\n

    In the United States, a list of coaches banned for life can be found on the website of USA Swimming<\/a>.\u00a0It includes cases going back to 1991 but was not published until 2010. Everett Uchiyama, former USA Team Director, was among 46 on the banned list. That case remains at the heart of a horrible history that remained hidden from public view, the details of the Uchiyama case revealed in 2018 when victims turned whistleblowers<\/a>.<\/p>\n

    The case of swim coach Andy King made headlines around the world, <\/a>while the weight of scandal at USA Gymnastics shed further light on a very dark corner of Olympic sport. Safe Sport measures have been put in place since 2010 much has been out in place to spread awareness and better practices. Victims and advocates continue to advocate for improvements in such systems.<\/p>\n

    The issue is far from being confined to the United States, sex-abuse sandals involving Olympic coaches to be found in many leading swimming nations.<\/p>\n

    Here are some key resources related to the theme of sexual abuse in sport:<\/p>\n

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    • Nancy Hogshead (Makar), the 1984 Olympic 100m freestyle champion who these days runs Champion Women<\/a><\/li>\n
    • How to Stop Sexual Abuse in Sports – by Nancy Hogshead-Makar at AthleticsBusiness<\/a><\/li>\n
    • Lifetime sexual and physical abuse among elite athletes<\/a>: a Cross-sectional study of prevalence and correlation with athletics injury – Abstracts from the IOC World Conference on Prevention of Injury & Illness in Sport, Monaco 2014<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Videos at KidPower<\/h4>\n

      \u201cProtecting Youth Athletes from Sexual Abuse\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n